He's acting differently, but you just can't put your finger on why. Then, his cell phone rings in the middle of the night and he doesn't have a good explanation. We've all heard the "he blames you for cheating" and "his cell phone has a password on it" behaviors of cheating men, but those are the obvious shifts. She said she should could just tell.
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He's acting differently, but you just can't put your finger on why. Then, his cell phone rings in the middle of the night and he doesn't have a good explanation. We've all heard the "he blames you for cheating" and "his cell phone has a password on it" behaviors of cheating men, but those are the obvious shifts.
She said she should could just tell. After spending time with someone for a number of months or even years , you know their typical behavior. You know how they act in certain situations, and when they act differently you want an explanation — if not cheating, then something else real and tangible.
In this respondent's case, when he started his affair, he would grab his phone and head into the restroom for 20 to 30 minutes. His excuse: He was "reading email and the news. So, I'd start a fight with her. Being angry in an instant — or being overly nice — is a red flag. There's no real reason for him to leave, so he has to create one. New activities, such as him going out all the time but never mentioning it until afterward is a glaring example.
If he was going somewhere and had no reason to hide it, he would most likely talk about it with you. Cheating men change physically. It's the body's primal means of preparing for courtship — he's readying himself to attract a mate. In addition, cheating men start taking much better care of themselves and take a lot of pride in their appearance. He's suddenly pressing his clothes, coifing his hair and shaving daily when he didn't before, especially when leaving the house without you.
But I struck up with this woman; we enjoyed it together. I started listening to it all the time, just to think about her. There's nothing wrong with trying new things. But when it's out of the blue and he excludes you from the change, it's one of the warning signs he's cheating and that something is amiss. She wasn't laughing. I asked, 'What? Don't you remember? As he spends more time with both you and his mistress, the memories of his time spent with her and the memories of his time spent with you will start to blur together.
Schedules get crossed and he won't be able to keep track of where he was on any given day. The time he spent with another woman is entirely unaccounted for — often, with no explanation.
I was online chatting with my mistress. To take time for one's self is normal. But when it's out of the normal pattern — or is more and more frequent — it's a sign that something else is going on. Going into work early, leaving late, getting off the phone suddenly, and taking lots of private calls from a "relative" mom, sister, someone untraceable are also red flags. She knew something was up, because our sex life was always pretty active.
She told me I was really aggressive in bed and that she hadn't seen me that way before. A sudden shift in what's "regular" or familiar in bed — without discussing wanting something new — is a big warning sign of cheating.
All the men I interviewed expressed experiencing a huge rush of testosterone, which manifested as a new confidence during sex. They felt strong, masculine, virile — like every woman wanted them.
Their egos were growing daily. And our hotel visits were three or four times per week. Covering that was very difficult. I would make online transfers into PayPal and she couldn't see any of my transactions. Most cheating men will need an untraceable way to pay for things: gifts, meals, hotels, trips, etc.
Reloadable credit cards, PayPal or Venmo accounts, and eBay purchases are all great ways to hide large or frequent transactions. Definitely investigate large, random transfers or cash withdrawals. But I'd started a relationship with a new manager at the office, so I started going in to work more often. When I extended my business trips a day before or after, I actually needed at a remote site, extended office lunches and late hours. Office affairs are very common , especially considering how much time we spend working together.
He might mention his new "friend" to dispel any suspicions you have and if you pop in to the office unexpectedly, or he might even introduce you to his "coworker" to throw you off the scent. Follow your gut and pay attention to his other behaviors. I would only text [my mistress] when it was safe and then delete the messages immediately.
To this day my wife doesn't know how I communicated with [my mistress]. So, we established a new Gmail account and communicated in the drafts folder, without ever sending anything. Technology is now smarter and affairs have gone high-tech. A new password on his cell phone or computer, a change of password at your bank or cell phone company, or cell phones being "left in the car" were once valid signs of infidelity, but now, cheaters fly under the radar by using technology to do their communication dirty work.
Apps exist that allow text messages, online chat sessions and pictures to last for a certain amount of time and then disappear. While these signs aren't foolproof signs of cheating, a few taken in combination are sure signs that something is up. My advice: don't make accusations that you can't back up. But, if you do suspect it, sit him down for a long talk about your concerns. If that nagging feeling doesn't disappear, you have some choices to make — and perhaps some investigations to start.
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